Ready to unlock a whole new kind of orgasm?

We see you! Now, Let’s talk about the prostate - aka the P-spot, aka your backstage pass to deeper, full-body bliss. Whether you’re flying solo or with a partner, prostate massage can take things from “oh that’s nice” to “holy sh*t, mind blown.”

So, what is the prostate? And where do I find it?
Think of it as the G-spot for people with a penis. It’s a small gland (about walnut-sized) that sits just a couple of inches inside the anus, tucked up towards the belly. Its main job is producing fluid that helps sperm along - but here’s the sexy part: it’s also jam-packed with nerve endings that, when stimulated, can lead to next-level orgasms.

Unlike a traditional penile orgasm, a prostate orgasm hits differently: deeper, fuller, and more all-encompassing. We’re talking toe-curling waves of pleasure that can ripple through your whole body. Bonus? You don’t even need to be hard to have one. Yep - wild, right?

How to Find Your P-Spot

Grab some lube (a lot of lube) and let’s map this treasure out. With a clean, well-lubed finger (gloves optional if that makes you feel more comfortable), gently slide inside and curve your finger up towards your belly button. That firm, slightly spongy bump you feel? That’s the prostate. Hello, pleasure button.

Finger Fun: Prostate Massage Basics

Curious to try it out for yourself or a partner? Here’s your step-by-step guide:

Safe words - if you’re playing with a partner, it is important to listen to each other and ensure the communication is free-flowing. Make sure a safeword is established prior to play, and consent is given fully & enthusiastically before & during play.

It’s all in the prep - Wash your hands, trim your nails, and empty your bowels if that helps you relax. You can use gloves if you like (this isn’t essential, but some people enjoy the super smooth glide). Some people like to douche for that squeaky clean feeling. If you’re worried, try timing your anal play in the hours post a regular bowel movement for ultimate peace of mind.

Lube like a legend - Seriously, lube is your best friend here. Use plenty on both the fingers and the anus. I can’t see this enough - even more, more, add more than you think - go wild with it friends.

Slow and steady - Tease around the opening first to warm things up & help you relax. When you’re ready to move things along, gently insert a finger - remembering to take your time, and breathe. Communication is key if you’re with a partner, and ensure you are both checking in with each other regularly.

Seek and explore - Once you’ve found the prostate, try light pressure, gentle tapping or small strokes & circles. Mix it up until you discover what feels good. Remembering to listen to your body. If you’re with a partner, let them know they’re on the right track - try some gentle moaning, or phrases such as “it feels great when you stroke it softly like that”. Or if you are giving, be sure to check in with phrases like “do you like that?” or is “is this pressure ok”.

Double the fun - Combine with external penis stimulation for an out-of-this-world experience. I mean… *cue the fireworks*

Patience pays off - P-spot orgasms can take a little longer, but trust us: the build-up is so so worth it… and remember, the journey should be as fun as the destination. So bask in the pleasure-filled glory & enjoy taking your time… feeling deeply into every sensation.

Ready for more..? It’s toy-time, baby.

Fingers are fab, but prostate toys take things to the next level. A curved prostate massager can hit just the right spot, and if you add vibrations? Game-changer. Vibes help the muscles relax and send waves of pleasure deeper than fingers alone.

One of our faves is the LELO Loki Wave 2 – it’s got a handy handle for precision, powerful internal vibes, and even an arm that teases the perineum (that delicious little patch of sensitive skin between your balls and bum). Basically: chef’s kiss. You can view Lelo’s Loki Wave 2 & our other fave prostate toys here.

Prostate play isn’t just about orgasms (though those are epic) – it’s about curiosity, self-discovery, and taking your pleasure into new territory. Go slow, lube up, and explore what feels good for you.

So, are you ready to meet your P-spot? Trust us, it’s worth the hype.

photo credit: via Pinterest.